Attachment Style Quiz

Discover your adult attachment style using validated relationship psychology. Based on Bartholomew & Horowitz

What is Attachment Style?

Attachment style refers to the characteristic pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors you bring to close relationships, rooted in early experiences with caregivers. Developed by John Bowlby (1969) and extended by Mary Ainsworth and colleagues (1978), attachment theory proposes that early bonding experiences create an internal working model that shapes how you relate to others throughout your life.

Adult attachment styles are typically described along two underlying dimensions: Attachment Anxiety (fear of abandonment, worry about relationship stability) and Attachment Avoidance (discomfort with closeness, preference for self-reliance). The combination of these dimensions produces four attachment styles described by Bartholomew and Horowitz (1991): Secure, Preoccupied, Dismissing-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized).

Attachment styles are not fixed destiny. Research consistently shows that earned security, developing a secure attachment style through positive adult relationships and therapy, is possible and common. Attachment-focused therapies such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Schema Therapy directly address attachment patterns to improve relationship quality and emotional wellbeing.

Attachment Style Quiz

Rate how much each statement describes you in close relationships on a scale of 1–7.

The Four Attachment Styles

Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991). Each style reflects a different combination of Attachment Anxiety (fear of abandonment) and Attachment Avoidance (discomfort with closeness).

Attachment Style in Therapy

Adult Attachment Measurement Tools

Relationship Outcome Monitoring in HiBoop

ECR-R, DERS, PHQ-9, and GAD-7, integrated relationship, emotion dysregulation, and attachment-focused outcome monitoring for couples therapy, EFT, and DBT programs.